Since I was little, I studied hard to get good grades. I was told to get good grades to graduate High School, so then I could get into college. I went to college to get a good job, so that I could buy a car, move out and create a life with my boyfriend. Over and over I was doing one thing in order to get to something else. I was always chasing the next thing.
It’s no wonder then, that I ended up burnt out and unfulfilled by the time I got married, bought a house, and had two dogs and two kids. This burnout though, was a blessing, as it finally led me on my personal path to clarity, ease and peace.
Now, I’m all about achieving results and reaching my goals.
It’s in my DNA to be this way. However, we can learn to enjoy the ride even during times of plateau (little or no change after massive action) through mindfulness practices and changing up our daily habits.
If we are to master anything, we must practice patient, dedicated effort without attachment to immediate results. This is difficult for most of us, as it’s not what we are taught. As parents, we are even doing this to our kids (without realizing it ) by asking them to go to school, get good grades, and so on and so forth.
We live in a world of instant gratification.
If someone said it would take at least 5 years to become a professional athlete, most of us would throw in the towel the moment it became ‘hard’ or we didn’t ‘see’ any progress. What we must remember, is that we can be making gains even though the results may be hidden from our view, or even invisible. Nowadays, we are trying to hack everything in order to see instant effects. We want to know the ending of the movie before it begins. We silently worry, “Am I on my way to becoming X?”
It sounds cliche’, but the JOY of life is in the journey.
All things become sweeter the longer we practice, right? For example, meditation, exercise, relationships – it’s when we are attached to a particular outcome that it gets complicated.
Creating new habits takes time. Commit to mastery and then be mindful of when you’re resisting versus allowing, doing versus being, and trying to intellectually ‘know’ versus trusting the process. These are the true attributes of detachment that make any trip worthwhile.